One of the biggest and most important steps in the Law of Attraction is knowing what you want. Do you know? Does your family know? Some people have a hard time figuring out what it is they really want. We tend to know what we don’t want…but not what we do want.
For example, I know I don’t want to fall down and crack my head, but when I think that way how do I act? I walk differently, more timidly, cautiously, and the next thing you know I fall and crack my….well, OK maybe not crack my head…..but I might at least bruise myself! So, I need to turn that thought into a positive instead of “don’t want to”, I want to be safe, confident and secure. Wow, now I’m walking totally differently and am much less likely to actually fall.
When I’m skiing I used to think like this a lot….and I ski completely differently when I think “I don’t want to fall and get hurt….and end up in the hospital, and need to get surgery, and then not be able to exercise, and not be able to ski, and then I’ll be lazy and gain weight and, and, and….can you see where my mind can go if I let it? That’s a lot of thinking for just going down a mountain. Man, I’m exhausted and I’m just sitting at my computer! Anyway, when I think I don’t want to fall, I ski like a complete dork, I can even get myself to start snow plowing on an expert slope, which is very dangerous and could lead to me falling and actually cracking my head. So, I change my thinking and enjoy the ride. What a rush! I am now attracting more confident, safe, and secure thoughts, which makes the whole day a blast. I leave the slopes pumped up and feeling like an amazing skier, which sounds a heck of a lot better then either crying on the slopes (which I have done) or going back to town in an ambulance. If you aren’t a skier and can’t relate to this analogy, fill in the blank with something that can be scary for you at times. Doesn’t it work the same way for that too?
We, and when I say we I mean humans, tend to go to negative statements. The “I don’t want to…”. Watch your words, can you find that in yourself? I know I can. It’s something I am constantly trying to work on, especially with kids. Here are a few steps to take to figure out what you really want and how to ask for it. If you reprogram your language, your thought patterns will follow along.
Step 1: Complaining Time!
That’s right, let them rip! I want you to complain, on paper, about everything you can think of to complain about. Here are a few topics to write (complain) about.
1. Money
2. Relationships
3. Family
4. Work
5. Your body
6. Your health
7. Free time
8 The Government
9. World matters
Etc………
If you can complain about it, write it down. That is the thinking that brings you more of it! The complaining is not going to be an everyday or every moment thing. This is just an exercise, so don’t go home and say “I’m supposed to complain, Loren the Life Coach told me to.” After you are done with this exercise I want you to stop complaining as much as possible, so get it out now, while you can.
Step 2: Write down what you don’t want, related to all of your complaints.
For example, if my complaint was, “I am so sick and tired of being tired!” Then, my I don’t want statement would be, “I don’t want to be tired.” For every complaint you wrote write an “I don’t want” statement.
Step 3: Turn them around!
Take your “I don’t” statements and turn them around into the opposite. Example, my “I don’t want to be tired” statement turned into the opposite, which is “I want to have energy” or “I want to be energetic”. Write it down and then turn it around!
Step 4: You already have it!
This is the last step. Take your “I want,” statements and turn them into an
“I am” or “I have” statement. Coming from the space of already having it, is an abundant mind set, which will have you actually having it in no time. If you already feel like you have it, just the way you want it, you will act differently. You will be abundant and powerful. For example, “I want to be energized”, turns into “I am energized!” Now, doesn’t that sound more powerful? Wow, I am energized! I have enough energy to do everything I want to do and more. When I start thinking this way and feeling affirmative, I become energized. Just writing this article right at this moment, I now feel like I do have energy to do anything, and if that fades I will remind myself that I am energized and have energy.
Finish these steps with every statement on your list and read and feel like you already have them. Every night before bed and every morning when you wake up state those positive “I have” statements and watch the life that you always dreamed of unfold. You can try this activity with your family and see what everybody is truly wanting.
Well, I’m off to climb El Capitan now with all of my extra energy! Good luck to you all and happy attracting.
***As a side note: After writing this article and working on my energy statement, I truly did have a lot of extra energy…..I couldn’t even fall asleep last night, and got a lot of work done because of it. Last night I was up till midnight being productive. Wow! This stuff really works, so give it a go!